if you need a doula in the twin cities, this is the one you need

Before Amelia even got pregnant with this baby of ours, she was insistent that we would need a doula. I wasn’t really interested at first, because I felt like I would be able to take care of my wife, dammit, and I didn’t need any help at all! She also insisted on taking the recommended pre natal supplements by actual women, s she did, and thankfully that went pretty well.

Midway through the pregnancy, things got a little weird with the place we were planning on birthin’ this baby. Some red flags shot up based on the care we were receiving, so hiring a doula became more appealing to me. I tend to get defensive and protective of the people in my life and we decided that might not bode well if I wound up in fisticuffs with a doctor while my wife was in labor.

We interviewed two doulas before we knew we found the one for us. The first one was great and we didn’t have any concerns about her at all. She asked who the other doula was that we were interviewing and when we told her, she looked like someone had run over her puppy. I’m paraphrasing, but she said something like, “Yeah, you’ll go with her.” And she’s right. We did.

Meet our doula, Alissa Fountain or she’s here on Facebook if you’re more into that kind of thing. I would just hashtag her amazeballs and be done with it, but you need to know more.

When you meet Alissa, she’s this immediate calming presence. If you know me, you know I’m the exact opposite of that, but yet when I was in a room with her, I could feel that presence and that doesn’t happen often for me.



watch ya mouth, pals

October is the National Dental Hygiene Month and throughout the 31 days, efforts will be made to make people realize that they need to take better care of their oral health. The fact is that looking after your teeth is not expensive nor very difficult. To ensure that you keep smiling, here are a  few tips to stick to a dental healthcare regime.

How to take care of teeth in 10 easy steps –

1. Brush before going to bed –

Germs and bacteria accumulate in your mouth throughout the day and the food that you eat tends to accumulate between your teeth. That is why you have to brush after meals, preferably after dinner before you go to bed. Unless you do this, there is a good chance plaque will develop around your teeth.

But remember, don’t brush within half an hour of your dinner. That is because the acids that food releases make your teeth’s enamel vulnerable and brushing right afterwards may erode the enamel.

2. Brush first thing in the morning –

When you are asleep, your mouth does not produce much saliva. And saliva is vital in flushing out harmful pathogens in your mouth. That is why, in those hours when you are asleep, bacteria colonies expand. Brushing your teeth in the morning will clean out the bacteria.

3. The right way of brushing –

According with family dentist Omaha, the way you brush is important and if you don’t do it right, it’s as harmful as not brushing. Brush in gentle circular motions at a 45-degree angle. Your brushing shouldn’t last longer than 4 minutes or you might damage your enamel. Brush your tongue as well, especially the back of it because filth accumulates between your tastebuds and they too have the potential to harm your teeth.

Remember to use a soft-bristled brush.

4. Flossing –

Not a lot of people in India floss their teeth. Floss is a very thin cord that you can use to remove food particles or plaque stuck in those nooks and crannies of your teeth that your toothbrush cannot reach. Unless you floss, tooth decay should set in because you are not expelling all possible plaque from your teeth.

5. Fluoride Toothpaste –

Make sure that your toothpaste contains sodium fluoride. This ingredient is famous for its anti-cavity properties and will keep your teeth strong and healthy. Next time you purchase a tube of toothpaste, go over the ingredient list to see if it contains fluoride.

6. Use a mouthwash –

Like flossing, not many Indians are keen on using mouthwash. That is because not many of us know how mouthwash works. It does more than just give you a fresh breath. It lowers the amount of acid present in your mouth to minimize teeth damage caused by acids. It adds more minerals to your teeth. And when you swish it in your mouth, it cleans out your teeth, tongue and oral cavity thoroughly.

7. Stay hydrated –

Drinking water frequently means you will wash down the bacteria that can harm your teeth. Drink water after your meals to negate the effect of acids. Or you can rinse your mouth with water too.

8. Visit your dentist –

Make an appointment with your dentist twice a year. Consider this as a kind of preventive check-up. Your dentist will examine your teeth and mouth for any signs of plaque, tartar, cavities or gum disease. If there are any, you can take action right away.

9. Cut down on sweets and sugary treats –

This is one of the most important dental care tips. All sweet-tasting foods contain sugars, which are converted to acids in your mouth. And acids are your teeth’s worst enemy.

“how to pee: potty training for boys”, my personal review 

Caution: Parenting Talk about Pee and Poop to Follow

A couple of weeks ago, my wife and I decided it that, at a 2.5 years old, it was time introduce this whole “bathroom” situation to OzMan. It’s not like he’s ever walked up to us and said, “Hey, mamas, I’d really like to try pooping in something that wasn’t my pants”, but what does he know? He’s 2. And a half.Now that we have finally renovated the bathroom, added new floors and new Bathroom Vanity Units we felt like it was time for him to learn.

Amelia went all out and bought him PJ Masks underpants, Thomas the Tank Engine Pull Ups, a book of 500 stickers, candy for the off chance that something might actually happen and a pack of construction vehicles for when things really start happening. She went to the library and checked out a couple of DVDs and books to get this whole family on board with this potty training business. Gung-ho, I’m telling you.

One of these books is called How to Pee: Potty Training for Boys. It looks like this:

It’s written by an M.D., so I’m sure there’s some sort of validity with that, right? I mean, it looks like peeing in the toilet can be SO FUN.

But here’s the thing, I don’t want my kid to learn how to pee in the toilet with these step-by-step instructions. I used to have to clean the men’s bathroom when I worked at Taco Bell and I know what it’s like to have to clean up after grown men that were probably pretending they were cowboys screaming “PEE-HAW YEE-HAW” after they’d eaten their Nacho BellGrande 12 minutes before the restaurant closed.

The book goes through a handful of examples of how little boys can use the bathroom like a cowboy or a movie star. The one that gave me the biggest gag factor was the section with four steps that involved the little boy carving out a riverbed down a hill with a stick and then peeing all the way down it. No, any son of mine. Just no.

There was a section called “Mommy Style”, which involved the little boy sitting on the toilet while wearing a pink floppy hat and being served toilet paper by a butler. I’m still trying to figure out why a butler doesn’t bring me my toilet paper and a tiny bit annoyed that now my kid thinks he’s “peeing like a mama” when he sits on the toilet. But, it’s cool. I parented my way out of that one.

The review of the 2.5 year old goes like this:

Me: Dude, do you like this book?
Oz: Um… potty.
Me: What’s your favorite page?
Oz: *Would rather watch a Property Brothers rerun than continue this conversation”

I’m kind of burnt out on Property Brothers, but they weird me out less than looking at the streams of pee coming from this little hand drawn boy pretending to be a super hero. The concept of it is adorable – the guy’s son liked to role play (?) and use all these different props when he pees, so he wrote a book about it. It sucks being an adult, because if I tried to take in a rope and some spurs to the bathroom at work, I’m pretty sure the book someone would write about me would not be found in your local library’s children’s section.

We got the book on Wednesday. We’ve read it a handful of times. He has not found it inspiring and would rather read Digger, Dozer, Dumper over and over instead. It’s on to the next awkwardly written and illustrated potty training book for us.