things that are new for us

Once a month. This is how this is happening around here right now, but I feel drawn to at least keep that habit up. I write in my head all the time, but I don’t want anyone up there but me.

And, really, I don’t even want to be there sometimes.

Here’s what’s new with me and those around me:

  • The newest addition to our family has been cooking for 18 weeks. We found out current male/female status, but are waiting for an Etsy order to arrive before we got all cutesy about it. We already told our immediate family, so I literally spent $40 on Etsy just for cutesy social media photos for this baby. That means you all better LOVE IT or at least pretend to love it.
  • I started HR blogging. I don’t know, you guys. It just happened. I’m on just about the same monthly post status as I am here, so I wouldn’t get too excited. But if you’re totally into nerdy HR stuff, I GOT YOU, BOO.
  • My wife started her new job this week. Huge shift for our fam and we’re still adjusting, but I think we’re gonna make it. And then we’ll shift again when the tiniest Berry baby arrives, but that’s a while off yet.
  • Oz and I went to Missouri again. He wasn’t quite as much of a champ on the drive down as he was back in May, mainly because he was not interested in napping and the second he napped was right about the same time I needed to stop and get gas. This kid loves his family so much and they love him. It’s precious to watch.
  • Good news is that we haven’t been to the emergency room yet with Daredevil Oz, despite the fact that he’s trying to stand on the seat of his bike to ride it over to the basketball hoop just so he can slam dunk his ball. We’ll see how this one ends.
  • Uh… that’s it.

We’re not action packed over here right now. We’re doing adult shit and being grownup and trying to avoid hiring someone to come clean out our gutters, but I’m pretty sure there’s a tree growing in one of them. Does anyone have a gigantic ladder we can borrow?




goodbye first trimester

We’re having another baby. I forget to post big things here anymore because it’s much easier to announce things in 140 characters or less. But since I’ve used this blog for pretty much every life altering event over the past 17+ years, I feel like I should elaborate for historical purposes.

Meet our new baby:

Well, there are a few differences now that I look at the picture:

  • We’re only having one.
  • It won’t come out with a helmet or a firearm.
  • And it probably won’t be green.

And really, even if this kid comes out green, I’m cool with that. The first bullet point has been confirmed a couple of times and we’ll be millionaires if the second one happens.

The process wasn’t nearly as easy for this early-2018 baby was it was for the soon-to-be big brother. I don’t know if we had unrealistic expectations this time or we’re just older, more mature (or geriatric according to my wife’s medical records…), or what, but it was tough to get to this point. Here’s how it worked with him:

  • February 10th, 2014: IUI procedure at our reproductive doctor’s office
  • February 25th, 2014: Multiple pregnancy tests were turning up positive.
  • Early March 2014: Couldn’t see his heartbeat, waited two weeks, finally saw his heartbeat.
  • November 2014: Ozzy was born and I didn’t blog about it. SORRY, SON.

This future baby worked like this:

  • Repeat Step 1 from above on in November 2016, December 2016, January 2017, March 2017 and May 2017. We had to skip February and April due to a couple of medical things that need to resolve themselves, and we only had one more shot that was covered by insurance.
  • May 18th: some positive pregnancy tests after a handful of negative ones in the span of about three days.
  • June 7th: Saw a heartbeat and a tiny ball of cells and graduated from the reproductive clinic a couple of weeks after that (which is a big deal in the TTC world).
  • July 6th: Saw an even better heartbeat, a wiggling little almost fetus and got the thumbs up that everything was looking pretty good.

And that’s where we are now. I really, really, really always have the best of intentions to write more about the process because I want to remember all of it… and then life gets in the way. A big part of life as it is right now includes a shaggy haired two year old with a farmer tan who really enjoys the phrase “WATCH THIS” and watching Moana and Cars on a rotation.

i have big blogging ideas, you guys

Then again, I always have big blogging ideas. I mean, honestly, I have really great ideas all the time. It’s just the execution piece that I’m terrible at coming up with. My Strengths Finder results are in no way at all even remotely tied to the executor category of them, so I’m not overly surprised. If we take a quick peak at the progress I’m making on my 101 things in 1001 days list, we can all see just how unsuccessful I am at getting shit done. It’s cool, though. I’m accepting it.

Here’s the current list I’ve been working on since March 4, 2016. Things aren’t going well and I’m throwing in the towel on some of them, because I’m not delirious and having pending things on a to-do list never makes me feel awesome.

Let’s go with the list that just isn’t happenin’:

  •  Date night once a month with my wife. (3/2016, 5/2016, 8/2016, 9/2016, 10/2016, 11/2016, 12/2016, 1/2017) This is terrible and I know. I also know it’s not going to get any better at all with a second baby making his or her entrance early next year. We’re going to need to suck it up and start not being afraid to ask people to babysit.
  • Have game night at our house 2x a year. We’ve never had anyone over to our house for any reason other than Ozzy’s 1st birthday party, to house sit or to have them help us with some thing. I did meet a nice electrician this way.

And where’s where I’ve been able to knock things completely off the list:

  • Re-do this website again. For me, that means changing WordPress themes and I’ve done that five million times.
  • Use Untapped again to try 10 new beers. Éphémère Bleuet by Unibroue, Apple Jack by Sociable Cider Werks, Apple Hard Cider by Uncle John’s Hard Cider, Mexican Honey Imperial Lager by Indeed Brewing Company, Ciderkin by Argus Cidery, Blueberry Wheat by Abita Brewing Company, Rekorderlig Päron by Åbro Bryggeri, Hopitoulas by NOLA Brewing, Blonde by NOLA Brewing, Strawberry Ale by Convington Brewhouse. Nailed it, thanks to a few days in New Orleans. And honestly, it was really, really awesome trying drinks in a city that had beers I’d never even heard of before. I should do that more.

And the still-in-progress items:

  • Go out with friends in some fashion at least once a month. (2016, 1/2017, 2/2017) I’ve realized how important this one is to my mental health. I’m an extrovert and needs downtime, but without both, it just doesn’t make for a super happy Wendy.
    • March 2017 (happy hour with some co-workers), April 2017 (Transportation Museum with some friends and we went to a co-worker’s fundraiser), May 2017 (Went to a birthday party), June 2017 (five days of HR conference nerdery)
  • Get June to the point where she doesn’t lose her shit when people come over. Amelia’s mom was here for a whole week and June let her touch her pretty much every day and that’s a big win when it comes to our neurotic little mutt. She’s never going to jump in anyone’s lap, but I’ll take it if she’s not barking the ENTIRE time that someone’s here.
  • Visit 30 new restaurants. 21/30 Fireside Lounge & Bar, Capitol View Cafe, Crooked Pint & Ale House, Blvd Bar & Grille, Highland Grille, Taco Libre, Giordano’s (the Minneapolis version), Boatright’s Dining Hall (Orlando), Anchor Bar (Superior, WI), Square Grouper (Key West), Bagatelle (Key West), Sandbar Sports Grill (Key West), Roostica (Key West), Frita’s (Key West), Cedar and Stone, Killer PoBoys (New Orleans), Cochon Butcher (New Orleans), World of Beer (New Orleans), Oceana Grill (New Orleans), Copper Monkey (New Orleans), Grindhouse Killer Burgers (Atlanta). Traveling is clearly helping.