2nd kid research – part 1

I clearly know everything there is to know about parenting already since I have a kid that’s going to turn three in November. I’ve only called poison control once, he’s never broken any bones and his swear word of choice is “what the Sam Hill”. Parent. Of. The Year. Mail my award anytime. This second one will be a breeze.

Totes kidding.

The last time we had to worry about a car seat fitting into a car was before Ozzy was born. We knew we’d be buying a second car before he was born. Logically, we would have bought the car and then picked out the car seat. But I love a good deal and there was a sale, some coupons, some gift cards and Cartwheel that led us the opposite direction. That meant we towed that damn seat to every car dealership we visited and it was a lot. After awkward test drives in several different cards, we ended up buying the first one we test drove anyway.

Now we have two cars which aren’t going anywhere for a while as long as Danger the Pontiac Vibe doesn’t fall apart in the next couple of years. And now we need an extra car seat. It doesn’t make a lot of sense for us to drive both cars to all the car seat stores and try them all out because that is the opposite of efficiency and I don’t have time in my life right now to be inefficient. And apparently both of these kids need to be appropriately restrained since it’s not the 80s where they can be bouncing around in the back of a full-size truck when they’re on a family vacation from Sedalia, Missouri, to Nashville, Tennessee. Not speaking from experience at all…

I was kind of stressing out about making sure we get the right second seat for both of our cars because I’m sure I’ll like this second baby as much as I do the first one. I finally remembered how much value I ended up finding about three years ago in the car seat safety checks on cars.com. My wife’s much more aware on the safety aspect of these things. (I should still be Parent of the Year, you guys. C’mon.) We also know we need to fit two seats in the back row because we don’t have a third row in either of our cars. It was super handy for us last time around and I’m already relieved that we can use it again this year. It’s not a perfect science, but it definitely helps us narrow down which kinds of seats we might need to get for this new kiddo.

I’m sharing because BABIES ARE HARD. I know you, esteemed reader, didn’t ask for my advice and that’s okay. You didn’t have to read this far. Plus, it’s not like I crawled up on your Facebook wall and offered my advice without you asking for it. Not that I’m speaking on personal experience from that one!

things that are new for us

Once a month. This is how this is happening around here right now, but I feel drawn to at least keep that habit up. I write in my head all the time, but I don’t want anyone up there but me.

And, really, I don’t even want to be there sometimes.

Here’s what’s new with me and those around me:

  • The newest addition to our family has been cooking for 18 weeks. We found out current male/female status, but are waiting for an Etsy order to arrive before we got all cutesy about it. We already told our immediate family, so I literally spent $40 on Etsy just for cutesy social media photos for this baby. That means you all better LOVE IT or at least pretend to love it.
  • I started HR blogging. I don’t know, you guys. It just happened. I’m on just about the same monthly post status as I am here, so I wouldn’t get too excited. But if you’re totally into nerdy HR stuff, I GOT YOU, BOO.
  • My wife started her new job this week. Huge shift for our fam and we’re still adjusting, but I think we’re gonna make it. And then we’ll shift again when the tiniest Berry baby arrives, but that’s a while off yet.
  • Oz and I went to Missouri again. He wasn’t quite as much of a champ on the drive down as he was back in May, mainly because he was not interested in napping and the second he napped was right about the same time I needed to stop and get gas. This kid loves his family so much and they love him. It’s precious to watch.
  • Good news is that we haven’t been to the emergency room yet with Daredevil Oz, despite the fact that he’s trying to stand on the seat of his bike to ride it over to the basketball hoop just so he can slam dunk his ball. We’ll see how this one ends.
  • Uh… that’s it.

We’re not action packed over here right now. We’re doing adult shit and being grownup and trying to avoid hiring someone to come clean out our gutters, but I’m pretty sure there’s a tree growing in one of them. Does anyone have a gigantic ladder we can borrow?

 

 

 

goodbye first trimester

We’re having another baby. I forget to post big things here anymore because it’s much easier to announce things in 140 characters or less. But since I’ve used this blog for pretty much every life altering event over the past 17+ years, I feel like I should elaborate for historical purposes.

Meet our new baby:


Well, there are a few differences now that I look at the picture:

  • We’re only having one.
  • It won’t come out with a helmet or a firearm.
  • And it probably won’t be green.

And really, even if this kid comes out green, I’m cool with that. The first bullet point has been confirmed a couple of times and we’ll be millionaires if the second one happens.

The process wasn’t nearly as easy for this early-2018 baby was it was for the soon-to-be big brother. I don’t know if we had unrealistic expectations this time or we’re just older, more mature (or geriatric according to my wife’s medical records…), or what, but it was tough to get to this point. Here’s how it worked with him:

  • February 10th, 2014: IUI procedure at our reproductive doctor’s office
  • February 25th, 2014: Multiple pregnancy tests were turning up positive.
  • Early March 2014: Couldn’t see his heartbeat, waited two weeks, finally saw his heartbeat.
  • November 2014: Ozzy was born and I didn’t blog about it. SORRY, SON.

This future baby worked like this:

  • Repeat Step 1 from above on in November 2016, December 2016, January 2017, March 2017 and May 2017. We had to skip February and April due to a couple of medical things that need to resolve themselves, and we only had one more shot that was covered by insurance.
  • May 18th: some positive pregnancy tests after a handful of negative ones in the span of about three days.
  • June 7th: Saw a heartbeat and a tiny ball of cells and graduated from the reproductive clinic a couple of weeks after that (which is a big deal in the TTC world).
  • July 6th: Saw an even better heartbeat, a wiggling little almost fetus and got the thumbs up that everything was looking pretty good.

And that’s where we are now. I really, really, really always have the best of intentions to write more about the process because I want to remember all of it… and then life gets in the way. A big part of life as it is right now includes a shaggy haired two year old with a farmer tan who really enjoys the phrase “WATCH THIS” and watching Moana and Cars on a rotation.